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The Law of the Garbage Truck

Wednesday, August 13th, 2008

How often do you let other people change your mood?

Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day?

The mark of a successful person is how quickly she/he can get back her/his focus on what’s important.

Five years ago I learned this lesson in the back of a taxicab in Indianapolis. Here’s what happened:
I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy.
And, I mean, he was really friendly.
So I asked, “Why did you just do that? That guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!”
This is when my taxi driver taught me. What I now call, “The Law of the Garbage Truck.”
He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they’ll dump it on you. Don’t take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don’t take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so…

Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don’t.

Please call into my info line at 1-800-809-1583 with a pen and paper handy. It won’t hurt and you will like what you hear there. Call it now while you are thinking about it.

Call me at any time!
Fred Raley
Woodbridge, VA
(703) 730 1079 (h)
(703) 203 4648 (m)
Fred@FredRaley.com

Another “Dad” post you need to read

Sunday, June 15th, 2008

Another message about lessons from ‘Dad’ Enjoy.

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Hi Fred

Josh here

About My Dad

When my dad was a kid, growing up in south, he was so poor that on a school trip to Washington DC with his school mates he was embarrassed to be the only kid there without shoes

Imagine looking up into the granite face of Abe Lincoln and being both embarrassed and inspired at the same time

My dad taught me many things and inspired life long qualities that I enjoy and admire to this day

Since its fathers day, I decided to share with you the most important things about life that he shared with me.

Some of these golden life nuggets he was conscientious of and others i learned just by watching him.

May they inspire you…

1. Greatness is the simple act of Never wavering from what you REALLY want, Never quitting, Never sacrificing your morals to get there and Never being too selfish to stop and help someone in need.

2. There are only 3 ways to get ahead in life - Use your brawn, Use your brain or steal.

His forearms are still bigger than my biceps

He never stole and refused to accept even change from the supermarket if it was too much.

He encouraged me to use my head more to get ahead.

3. Take care of your health because someday you will not have it. Someday comes sooner to those that disrespect their health.

4. Cherish every day as though it would be your last and NEVER go to sleep angry with the ones you love. Never break this rule.

5. And this is the most important thing I can ever thank my dad for. I find it hard to even put into words now as I type it.

He always believed in me.

In good times and in bad times he always believed in me.

I think if I had to choose, this would be the most important gift my father ever gave me.

I hope you have a story like this about your dad

Either way, take a minute and consider your legacy

What will your kids say about you?

It matters much who you choose to be

And if you:

Never Waiver
Never Quit
Never Sacrifice Your Morals
Never Be Too Selfish To Help Someone In Need
Never Take Your Health For Granted
Always Cherish The Day
Never Let The Sun Set On An Argument

Then you will have made my daddy proud

And someone will be proud to call you daddy or mommy or uncle…

And if you stumble, just pick your self backup

And if you are feeling blue- wear a smile because feeling follows action, not the other way around

And if you need a hand just reach out- help will find you

And never forget I believe in you

-Josh

P.S. Hi Dad, I know you are reading this Happy Fathers Day- I Love You

P.P.S. For those of you looking to use your brain more than your brawn, this worked for me http://www.4321Success.com

7 Habits of Highly Effective People!

Tuesday, June 3rd, 2008

Stephen Covey Hits the Nail on the Head!

Habit 1 - Be Proactive: The habit of being proactive, or the habit of personal vision, means taking responsibility for our attitudes and actions.

Habit 2 - Begin with the end in Mind: This is the habit of personal leadership. Start with a clear destination to understand where you are now, where you’re going and what you value most.

Habit 3 - Put First Things First: This is the habit of personal management, which involves organizing and managing time and events. Manage yourself. Organize and execute around priorities.

Habit 4 - Think Win/Win: Win/Win is the habit of interpersonal leadership. Win.win is the attitude of seeking mutual benefit. This thinking begins with a commitment to explore all options until a mutually satisfactory solution is reached, or to make no deal at all.

Habit 5 - Seek First to Understand�Then to be Understood: This is the habit of empathic communication. Understanding builds the skill of empathic listening that inspires openness and trust.

Habit 6 - Synergize: This is the habit of creative cooperation or teamwork. Synergy results from valuing differences by bringing different perspectives together in the spirit of mutual respect.

Habit 7 - Sharpen the Saw: This is the habit of self-renewal. Preserving and enhancing your greatest asset, yourself, by renewing the physical, spiritual, mental and social/emotional dimensions of your nature.

What to learn from a dog

Saturday, December 1st, 2007

If a dog was the teacher you would learn things like:

1) When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.

2) Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joy ride.

3) Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure ecstasy.

4) Take naps.

5) Stretch before rising.

6) Run, romp, and play daily.

7) Thrive on attention and let people touch you.

8) Avoid biting when a simple growl will do. (Think about it…)

9) On warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass.

10) On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.

11) When you’re happy, dance around and wag your entire body.

12) Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.

13) Eat with gusto and enthusiasm. Stop when you have had enough.

14) Be loyal. Never pretend to be something you’re not.

15) If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it. (Another thing to “think” about. )

Lastly, “When someone is having a bad day, be silent but sit close by.”

Fred Raley
Fred@FredRaley.com
(703) 730 1079
http://www.FredRaley.com

THE SEASONS OF LIFE

Tuesday, November 20th, 2007

“It is the promise of spring that as we sow, so shall we also reap. Faith further provides to us an irrevocable law decreed in heaven which assures that for every disciplined human effort we will receive a multiple reward. For each cup planted, a bushel reaped, for every good idea given to another, many shall be given to us in return. For every demonstrated act of faith, a multiplicity of the rewards; and for every act of love given, a life of love in return.” — Jim Rohn

As I travel around the country and world lecturing, one of the most frequently asked questions is what do I expect to happen over the next 6-12 months and/or even years? Well, I’m no expert, but I can share with you my thoughts. Whether it is preparing for the next few months or the next several years, I still believe there are overriding principals that we should follow and be led by. So I’d like to devote today’s message to my view of the period of history we’re in now and how it relates to words I wrote over 20 years ago in my book, “The Seasons Of Life”. Forgive me in advance if I sound a bit philosophical, but as you know by now, I do believe your philosophy is critical to your life’s success.

Life is about constant, predictable patterns of change. For the six thousand years of recorded history, as humans have entered this world, received parental instruction, classroom instruction, and gathered the experience of life; many have set for themselves ambitious goals, and dreamed lofty dreams. As the wheel of life continues its constant turning, all human emotions appear, disappear, and appear once again.

A major challenge faced by us all is that we must learn to experience the changing of life’s cycles without being changed by them; to make a constant and conscious effort to improve ourselves in the face of changing circumstances.

That is why I believe in the power and value of attitude. As I read, ponder and speculate about people, their deeds and their destiny, I become more deeply convinced that it is our natural destiny to grow, to succeed, to prosper, and to find happiness while we are here.

By our attitude, we decide to read, or not to read. By our attitude, we decide to try or give up. By our attitude, we blame ourselves for our failure, or we blame others. Our attitude determines whether we tell the truth or lie, act or procrastinate, advance or recede, and by our own attitude we and we alone actually decide whether to succeed or fail.

How incredibly unique that a God who would create the complex and immense universe would create the human race and give to those humans the free choice that would permit them to select their own achievement or their own destruction.

This strange, but all-knowing God gave to us a delicately balanced sphere called earth. On it, he placed the intelligent human who would either develop it or destroy it. How terribly fascinating that a God would leave both projects - earth as well as humans - unfinished! Across the rivers and streams he built no bridges; he left the pictures unpainted, the songs unsung, the books unwritten, and space unexplored. For the accomplishment of those things, God created the unfinished human who, within his heart and mind, had the capacity to do all these things and more, depending upon his own choice.

Attitude determines choice, and choice determines results. All that we are and all that we can become has indeed been left unto us. For as long as you continue to draw breath, you have the chance to complete the work in and for the earth and for yourself that God has begun for you. In the cycles and seasons of life, attitude is everything!

So let’s begin our discussion of the four seasons. I’ll start by making two comments. First, life and business are like the changing seasons. That’s one of the best ways to illustrate life: it’s like the seasons that change. Second, you cannot change the seasons, but you can change yourself.

Now with those two key phrases in mind, let’s look at what I consider to be the first major lesson in life to learn, and that is how to handle the winters. They come regularly, right after autumn. Some are long, some are short, some are difficult, some are easy, but they always come right after autumn. That is never going to change.

There are all kinds of winters - the “winter” when you can’t figure it out, the “winter” when everything seems to go haywire. There are economic winters, social winters and personal winters.

Wintertime can bring disappointment, and disappointment is common to all of us. So you must learn how to handle the winters. You must learn how to handle difficulty; it always comes after opportunity. You must learn to handle recessions; they come right after expansions. That isn’t going to change.

The big question is what do you do about winters? You can’t get rid of January simply by tearing it off the calendar. But here is what you can do: you can get stronger; you can get wiser; and you can get better. Remember that trio of words: stronger, wiser, better. The winters won’t change, but you can.

Before I understood this, I used to wish it were summer when it was winter. When things were difficult, I used to wish they were easy. I didn’t know any better. Then Mr. Shoaff gave me the answer from a part of his very unique philosophy when he said, “Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for fewer problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.”

Next is spring. Fortunately, following the turbulence of winter comes the season of activity and opportunity called springtime. It is the season for entering the fertile fields of life with seed, knowledge, commitment, and a determined effort.

However, the mere arrival of spring is no sign that things are going to look good in the fall. You must do something with the spring. In fact, everyone has to get good at one of two things: planting in the spring or begging in the fall. Take advantage of the day and the opportunities that spring can bring.

It is the promise of spring that as we sow, so shall we also reap. Faith further provides to us an irrevocable law decreed in heaven which assures that for every disciplined human effort we will receive a multiple reward. For each cup planted, a bushel reaped, for every good idea given to another, many shall be given to us in return. For every demonstrated act of faith, a multiplicity of the rewards; and for every act of love given, a life of love in return.

Just remember it is a natural characteristic of springtime to present itself ever so briefly, or to lull us into inactivity with its bounteous beauty. Do not pause too long to soak in the aroma of the blossoming flowers, lest you awaken to find springtime gone with your seed still in your sack.

With the intelligence, wisdom, and freedom of choice given to us as humans exercise the discipline to plant in spite of the rocks, weeds, or other obstacles before us. The rocks, weeds, and thorns of the world cannot destroy all your seeds if you plant massively enough and intelligently enough. My suggestion is to choose action, not rest. Choose truth, not fantasy. Choose a smile, not a frown. Choose love, not animosity. Choose the good in life in all things, and choose the opportunity as well as the chance to work when springtime smiles on your life.

Spring shows us that life is truly a constant beginning, a constant opportunity, a constant springtime. We need only to learn to look once again at life as we did as children, letting fascination and curiosity give us welcome cause to look for the miraculous hidden among the common.

Get busy quickly on your springs, your opportunities. There are just a handful of springs that have been handed to each of us. Life is brief, even at its longest. Whatever you are going to do with your life, get at it. Don’t just let the seasons pass by.

The third major lesson in life to learn; how to nourish and protect your crops all summer. Sure enough, as soon as you’ve planted, the busy bugs and noxious weeds are out to take things over. Here is the next bit of truth: they will take it, unless you prevent it.
There are two key phrases to consider with the third major lesson. The first is “all good will be attacked.” Don’t press me for a reason. I was not in on some of the early decisions, so I don’t know why. I just know that it’s true. Let reality be your best beginning. Every garden will be invaded.

The second phrase is “all values must be defended.” Social values, political values, friendship values, business values - all must be defended. Every garden must be tended all summer. If you don’t develop this skill, you’ll never wind up with anything of value.
But for those who make diligent efforts to plant, protect, and preserve there are not enough birds, bugs, or other obstacles to destroy all the efforts of last spring.
Now, the fourth and season is fall, the time of harvesting the fruits of our springtime labor. Fall also presents us with our fourth major lesson to learn in life, and that is to learn how to reap in the fall without apology if you have done well and without complaint if you have not.

For nothing is more exciting than a bounteous crop, and nothing more dreadful than a barren field in the fall. We must remember that in all areas of the human existence, what we put into this world, we get back from it. It is nature’s way of evening the score. So regardless of the results, take full responsibility for your crop. One of the highest forms of human maturity is accepting full responsibility for our lives.

Which brings me back to the beginning of our discussion. We must remember that life is constantly recycling itself. Much of life is about the balancing of two opposites; like the positive and negative charge on a battery. Life’s balancing of opposites totally surrounds our lives; man/woman, day/night, good/evil, life/death, water/land, summer/winter, recession/expansion, joy/sorrow, etc.

Yes, I believe we will have major changes, but I also believe we will continue to have just one winter, spring, summer and fall each year. Much of our success will lie in our ability and philosophy to plant in the springtime of opportunity. To weed and cultivate in the testing time of summer, to harvest without apology and/or complaint in the season of fall and to get stronger, wiser, better in the transition and learning times of winter.

Remember it is not what happens to you that determines your future; it is what you do about it.

To Your Success,
Jim Rohn
www.jimrohn.com
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“A great attitude does much more than turn on the lights
in our worlds; it seems to magically connect us to all
sorts of serendipitous opportunities that were somehow
absent before we changed.” — Earl Nightingale

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